Think back.

Do you shout at your children when you don’t want to? Or do you sometimes feel out of control as a mother? Have you ever acted a certain way in front of your child that you would be embarrassed for anyone else to have heard or seen?

It’s good to feel your feelings, but it’s not okay to parent with a pattern of meltdowns.

This pattern frightens your children and makes them feel emotionally responsible for you.

Good news. You can take charge of the meltdowns and parent with peace and strength.

Where mommy meltdowns come from

Any dysfunctional pattern is created from an unmet need that you are trying to satisfy.

When you emotionally melt down as a mother, you are usually running one of two beliefs:

• The belief that your needs are not as important as everyone else’s
• The belief that in order to be heard, you need to get upset

More good news! Neither of those beliefs are true.

How to shift the pattern (and prevent mommy meltdowns)

You’ll never change your pattern of losing it unless you love yourself first.

Love is the focus of an amazing Mommy Meltdown Cure created by my colleague Sigrid.

She has identified 8 ways you make parenting hard (and more prone to meltdowns) along with a lesson for each that helps you experience more love for yourself, so you can grow that love in your family.

Mommies who take care of themselves take better care of their children. It’s worth it for your children to take care of yourself today.

Get started with Sigrid and her Mommy Meltdown Cure here.

Why you sometimes wait to take care of yourself

As a mother, you care for other people’s needs. Sometimes you just want someone to take care of you for a change.

So you put off your own self-care in the hopes that someone else will do it for you.

It’s time to change that.

If your needs aren’t met, identify them and fulfill them. Take a meltdown as a sign that you need to recharge (start here with some Child Whisperer ideas of how to do that).

As you take care of yourself, you will find that dynamic shift with others and they will support you in meeting your needs.

It’s time to take care of yourself so you can show up for your children. Starting now.

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How do I know if my child expresses TYPE 1 or TYPE 3 Energy talked about in The Child Whisperer?

Parents can often identify whether their child expresses higher or lower movement. But when it comes to the two higher-energy Energy TYPE 1 and TYPE 3 movements, they can feel a little unsure.

Consider movement carefully

Like my book, The Child Whisperer, explains, each Energy Type expresses a unique quality of movement. A Fun-loving TYPE 1 Child and a Determined TYPE 3 Child moves will both move with a lot of energy, but the quality of that energy will be very different.

In this video, I talk about those differences in their mannerisms, features, and footsteps. I even impersonate the classic facial expressions for both of these Energy Types! Take a look…

Do things feel a little clearer for you now? Please share your experience in the comments below.

(To see the profiling videos, I talked about, click here: How to Profile Babies, Children and Teens)

Reconsider your labels

You’ll find the process of identifying your child’s Energy Type more challenging if your child has experienced a lot of negative judgment.

With their higher level of energy and outward-moving expression, both TYPE 1 and TYPE 3 children may be told they’re too loud, too big, or too hyper. Both Types of children may feel compelled to shut down and contain their natural energy.

If your child’s Energy Type continues to feel unclear, consider the possibility that this child doesn’t feel safe to be him or herself.

The good news is: You have the power to create that safe environment for your child!

Set the intention to understand your child’s true nature and honor it. Catch yourself if you ever judge your child’s natural movement as unacceptable. Your child’s true nature will reveal itself to you and you’ll have the opportunity to be an even better parent than you already are.

(Know the difference between TYPE 2 & 4 Energy?)

If you’re debating whether your child is a Sensitive TYPE 2 Child or a More Serious TYPE 4 Child, check out this recent blog post: TYPE 2 or TYPE 4 Energy? I Can’t Tell Which My Child Expresses 

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How clean were you expected to keep it? Was the level of cleanliness ever a fight between you and your parents?

Most importantly: Do you know how that dynamic is messing up your life as an adult?

I already talked this week about how a child’s clean room can mess up their life. But now it’s time to talk about you. You may have held onto conflict and anger connected to the very act of caring for your personal space.

Let’s get that energy out in the open so you can clear it and experience more ease in maintaining a room and a house you feel good in.

The Fun-Loving TYPE 1 Child, all grown up

• The imbalance: No motivation to be tidy.

As a child, you may have been required to keep your room tidy on a structured schedule. It went against your light, random nature. Now you resist that stifling feeling by never wanting to clean a thing.

• The solutions: Get support. That might mean bringing someone in to do deep cleaning. It might mean cutting down on the number of items you own so that you can leave things out and around without the space feeling too messy. Accept that you are more random and your space doesn’t have to look sleek and structured.

The Sensitive TYPE 2 Child, all grown up

• The imbalance: Excessive piles, which can tend all the way toward hoarding.

As a child, you may have been pushed to let things go that you wanted to hold onto. It went against your connected nature. Now you don’t want to let go of anything.

• The solution: Create a space specifically for piles (papers, projects, etc.) If items piled there go beyond the borders that you’ve set for that pile, it’s time to go through it. Accept that you can let many things go while still holding onto the things that really matter to you.

The Determined TYPE 3 Child, all grown up

• The imbalance: Can’t quite get it all done.

As a child, you may have been told to clean your room when you were in the middle of other things. It interrupted your projects and the big things you wanted to get done. Now cleaning itself feels like a project you can’t get finished.

• The solution: Move fast and just do the big stuff. Get support from others (people you live with or outside help) to take care of the details. Accept that you can check many things off your list, but cleaning is not something that stays permanently “done.”

The More Serious TYPE 4 Child, all grown up

• The imbalance: An obsession with cleanliness

As a child, you may not have been allowed authority over your own space to make it as clean as you wanted. Now that you’re in control of your own life, you’re tidy to the point of obsession.

• The solution: Select a few smaller spaces in your larger room or home that you value being immaculate. Take authority of those spaces. Especially if you live with other people, accept that other spaces do not need to be as tightly controlled.

PS. It’s National Clean Your Room Day today!

Support your inner child by cleaning your room in a way that honors your true nature!

(Not sure which of these 4 Energy Types describes you? It’s easy to find out with my free Energy Profiling course: myenergyprofile.com)

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Your children drag their feet when it comes to cleaning their room. It just never feels tidy.

It doesn’t have to be a fight. In fact, you can actually create a scenario where your children want to take care of their space. All it takes is a shift in thinking.

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Quote of the Day

You can’t get inspiration as a parent if you’re living in fear.

Caller Questions

1. Tina, Type 1: How do I help my children when they hoard items they no longer need? (Listen at 19:57)

2. Jen, Type 3: How do I handle freak-outs by my TYPE 1 daughter? (Listen at 38:08)

The root of your child’s freak-outs may be an indicator that something’s beyond them in terms of their age. Listen in to learn how you can avoid overwhelming them.

3.  Type 2 son: How do I help my child who sometimes feels overlooked by more assertive children at recess? (Listen at 43:52)

After validating this child’s feelings and honoring their experience, you need to ask an important question—and it’s not usually the first question that comes to mind.

4. Cathy, Type 2: How do I talk to 12-year-old son about pornography? (Listen at 48:47)

You can use this as a wonderful teaching opportunity. Do you want your child to learn about sexuality through pornography? No. But the moment you find your child has encountered it can show you that this child has more questions. Listen in to learn how you can be there to answer them.

Resources mentioned during the show

• Chakra7 Course
• The Art of Manifesting

Tune in, call in, or contact

To ask your own question, please call in during the next live show. Find the call-in number and live streaming broadcast here.

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How do you tell the difference between a Sensitive TYPE 2 Child and a More Serious TYPE 4 Child in The Child Whisperer method of parenting?

Both have a rich interior life and express a lower level of energy. If so much is going on below the surface in each of them, how do you identify which Type of energy they dominantly express?

Look carefully at movement

My book, The Child Whisperer, identifies and describes children’s general movement (not just personality). So you need to look at the way they move. Both TYPE 2 and TYPE 4 Energy are lower movements, but their quality of movement is very different.

In this video, I describe the differences in movement, language, and facial features that you’ll see between a Sensitive TYPE 2 Child and a More Serious TYPE 4 Child.

Does the difference feel clearer to you now? Please share your experience or questions in a comment below!

(To see the profiling videos, I talked about, click here: How to Profile Babies, Children and Teens)

Look at your labels again

You’ll have a challenge determining the Energy Type of a child who has experienced a lot of negative judgment about their nature.

With their lower level of energy and inward-moving expression, both TYPE 2 and TYPE 4 children may receive labels of shy or loner. They may feel pushed to make more friends than they want to or be more outgoing than they are.

When this happens, both these Types of children don’t feel safe to be themselves.

No child is shy. TYPE 2 children are subtle, TYPE 4 children are reserved.

Set the intention to know your child’s true nature and release negative judgments you may not realize you have. When your child feels safe, your child’s true nature will reveal itself to you.

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It’s not that we didn’t have power over our lives from the time we were young—we were just given a false script. Many of us believed that power over our lives existed outside of ourselves.

But the truth is, we’ve always been in charge of creating our lives.

And now that consciousness on the planet is shifting, it’s even easier to support your children in knowing the truth and helping them play from a place of being a creator.

This show will give you three practical (and fun) tips to help your children consciously practice creating their lives.

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Quote of the Day

If I can help parents create harmony, cooperation, and understanding in their family system, I’ve done more for the planet than if I had tried to bring world peace in some global way.

Caller Questions

1. Becky, Type 2: I feel like I’ve done a lot of clearing, but my children keep bringing things up. I feel like I’m missing a piece of something I’m supposed to do—how do I find it? (Listen at 31:20)

Your children are excellent mirrors. Hear how this mom can support her Type 3 son who keeps leaving the house alone in a way that actually supports both of them in living true to their natures and getting their needs met.

2. LaurieKae, Type 1: Is there any danger in opening the floodgates with the Law of Attraction? How do we keep a balance (or is there a balance) between the energy we’ve created for ourselves and what we’re trying to achieve? (Listen at 40:56)

Today’s episode focuses on talking to children about the Law of Attraction. But this question came up in a conversation between adults, and it’s an interesting one. Hear how much of the mainstream discussion about the Law of Attraction actually misses the larger purpose of us becoming creators of our lives.

We can create so much more than just more money in our bank accounts (although that’s an important thing to create). The truth is, you and I are meant to create something bigger, more important, and more global than that, just by creating harmony in our individual lives—listen in at 40:56 to hear what it is.

Resources mentioned during the show

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…shift from a lower vibration to a higher level of consciousness. Your child is a gift, a messenger, and if you pay attention, that child will help you see your limiting beliefs and patterns in a way you never could otherwise. Today’s show shares how you know if your child is more highly evolved, and what that can mean for your family.

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Quote of the Day

Any time you experience an emotional upset, or an emotional charge, that comes from your own childhood, hands down, 100% of the time. Your mind thinks you’re feeling this way because of the current experience. The current experience is playing out with your child because they’re a messenger to you that brings up your stuff.

Caller Questions

1. Email question: How do I help my Type 2 son who gets nervous about going back to school after the weekend? (Listen at 32:00)

Just as children with Type 2 energy often do, you need to ask some questions. The answers to these questions will help you understand where this child is feeling pressure and how you can make this child feel more comfortable.

2. Email question: My daughter, who used to love staying with other people, now cries every time I leave. What do I do? (Listen at 35:13)

This child’s stress signals are a huge indicator that something in that environment is contrary to her nature. The way you approach the situation is all dependent on your perceptions.

3.  Amanda, Type 2: How do I exercise and get the results I want without going against my natural energy? (Listen at 40:03)

This is a great question, and not just for people who express Type 2 energy. Amanda also asks an important question about when your emotional baggage stops weighing down on your life.

4. LaurieKae, Type 1: My child has natural gifts I’ve heard about but don’t understand–how do I approach that? (Listen at 49:30)

Her son has some very unique gifts in things he’s able to both sense and see. This is an amazing opportunity to open the whole family up to some beautiful experiences and higher consciousness.

Resources mentioned during the show

• Dressing Your Truth Member Resources (if you’re not yet a member, get started here)

• Child Whisperer Coaching: An hour-long, in-depth discussion about your challenges with your child. You can get coaching in-person or over Skype. You can call in from anywhere in the world. Sessions are recorded so you can be supported by the customized insight for you. (for availability, email parenting@liveyourtruth.com)

• 20-minute Profiling Session: Help confirm your child’s Energy Types and get key support feedback about what that child needs from you. $150, additional children for $30 extra fee. (for availability, email parenting@liveyourtruth.com)

• Bestselling book, Remembering Wholeness

Announcements

• I’m in the thick of creating Dressing Your Truth for Men. Look forward to hearing the new name for this course soon!

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As a parent, you can do far more to counteract the media’s influence than you realize.

These three simple steps can reassure and support your daughter when she thinks she’s fat—or before that struggle ever starts.

1. Watch your words (not just the ones about her).

You obviously don’t want to call your daughter fat or tell her to get on a diet. If you’re avoiding those kinds of phrases, you’re on the right track.

But what about the words you say that have nothing to do with her?

My mom always worried about her weight. She asked, “Am I as big as that woman? Am I as fat as her?” I learned to look at bodies in terms of comparison, fear, and inadequacy. By the time I hit high school, I had an eating disorder.

What do you say about bodies, weight, and food? More importantly, what do you believe? Your beliefs and words create programming in your family.

• What to do: Talk about your own body with love and appreciation. Talk about food as a gift and a resource that you manage wisely. Honor your body by maintaining and exercising it.

2. Look at your family history (I’m not talking genetics).

If your daughter struggles with excess weight (or even if she doesn’t), she may be running a generational pattern.

If several of your family members deal with emotional issues regarding weight, your daughter may be slipping into a rut of belief that says, “We’re fat people.”

• What to do: Your own inner healing. If your daughter is exhibiting extreme behavior that requires medical attention, intervene. But if she has simply expressed displeasure with her looks, you have more power to shift her experience by doing your own emotional healing than addressing the issue head-on. 

3. Support her food experience (in her way).

There’s a food experience that’s most supportive for your daughter.
(If you don’t yet know her Energy Type, discover it easily by reading The Child Whisperer.)

• The Fun-loving Type 1 Daughter

Keeping food fun is important in this girl’s world. Don’t take health so seriously with her!

She may have ideas about what to eat that aren’t the best choices—don’t shut them down! You don’t have to follow through on the idea to enjoy it with her. Help her make a party out of healthy food.

• The Sensitive Type 2 Daughter

Comfort is key to this girl—and she may turn to food to get it. Regularly invite her to talk about how she feels, both physically and emotionally.

Support your daughter in receiving comfort from other places, rather than just food (baked goods in particular). Invite her to eat healthy foods, but don’t ever push.

• The Determined Type 3 Daughter

These girls can get intense about their food experience, whether healthy or unhealthy.

Food imbalances are just secondary issues. Don’t say things that shut down your daughter in other areas of her life so she feels she has to make up for it with food.

• The More Serious Type 4 Daughter

These girls are not picky. They are particular, with a narrower palate. Don’t criticize or make light of this. Don’t draw attention to what she eats.

If you do need to talk about variety, set a time so she can prepare, and then talk privately—not at the dinner table.

You can do this.

I fully recovered from my eating disorder and I feel fantastic and empowered about my body. Your daughter can have this freeing experience early in life.

Consider your own words and beliefs. Support her Energy Type (and yours). Helping her through this can be healing for you both.

What’s your experience—either as a daughter or a parent who worked through this challenge? What did you do? What would you add? Please share your comment.

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Every child is different, so customize your springtime plans with these activities for every Type of child.

You can find all 12 activities listed at thesmallfryblog.com. Thanks to Small Fry for sharing Child Whisperer tips!

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Caller Questions

1. Sarah, Type 2: I’m feeling really worn-down and depleted? What do I do? (Listen at 20:33)

If you have small children and you start feeling down on yourself, consider that you could be working with one of a number of challenges.

2. Senoi, Type 3: How do I avoid frustration at preschool drop-off? (Listen at 30:19)

Your child may be sending messages that you haven’t known how to read. Some of the answers you may not have known you could ask about.

3. Megan, Type 4: What do I do when I stop feeling connected to everyone? (plus, a success story about bedtime!) (Listen at 40:01)

Such a good question with such simple solutions. You can also benefit from hearing the various things Megan did that all made a difference for their family’s sleep.

4. LaurieKae, Type 1: A Type 3 birthday success story. (Listen at 49:25)

Her son’s birthday was an honoring experience for him that will be the first of many important and supportive memories for him.

Resources mentioned during the show

• Blog post: The Zen of Screen Time: How to Help Your Child Find Balance
• Utah Valley Wellness Center, (801) 225-5550
• Anne Tuttle Brown’s blog

Announcements

• Dressing Your Truth for $99 - True Friend True Beauty Sale runs through April 25th

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Maybe it’s a big change—like a move or a new school. Or maybe it’s news you don’t know how to share—like a divorce or a death in the family.

Just because you don’t know how to say it doesn’t mean your child’s not ready to hear it.

Why you need to talk about it

Whether or not children know what’s going on, they pick up on the energy around them. When children feel something they can’t name, they experience stress.

If you speak openly about what’s going (in a way that’s appropriate for their understanding), you give a name and a voice to what your child is feeling. This reinforces the belief that your child can trust their own intuition.

Energy follows intention. Just naming the situation and talking about it will do wonders for sorting out any imbalanced energy.

How to talk about it

Your child best understands serious information if it’s presented in a way that resonates with them. Consider your child’s Energy Type and these tips:

• Fun-loving Type 1: This child processes information very quickly, so avoid a drawn-out conversation. They’ll let you know when they’re ready to disconnect. Remember that serious doesn’t equal heavy. Don’t shame your child for making a joke—they may need to make one if things start feeling too weighty for them.

• Sensitive Type 2: Find a quiet place together, share, and then let your child ask questions. This child’s thoughts will flow immediately to the future, which can turn into an energy of worry. Ask your child to share feelings about the future and then reassure, reassure, reassure.

• Determined Type 3: When talking with this child, focus on the practical implications of your news. Give this child an action they can do about it. Consider talking while doing an activity together, like walking somewhere or building something.

• More Serious Type 4: These children respond best to direct, matter-of-fact communication. They sometimes need to consider information inwardly before they react outwardly. Express your respect that they may need to take some time to think about what you’ve said and that you’re open to talk again whenever they choose.

(Knowing your child’s Energy Type is the simplest, most powerful key to knowing how to communicate with them. If you don’t know your child’s Type yet, read The Child Whisperer.)

No matter your child’s Type, always give an opportunity to share fears and concerns. 

Help them articulate their feelings if they’re not sure how to: “It sounds like you might be feeling angry. Is that right?” “Sounds like you’re worried what you would do if such-and-such happened. Is that true?”

Reassure them. No matter what’s going on, your child will always be grateful to hear that you love them and that you are committed to supporting them in whatever way they need.

Do you have experience talking with children about serious subjects? What would you add? Please share a comment below.

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